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Ravek

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So has a select few of you know of my situation. I planned on making this post later this month. But honestly its all my friends and I kinda talk about cause I just always need so much help and advice. Most of you will be too young to give help really cause hopefully you wont be in my situation until your older and more stable and ready to handle it (being financial). Begging of this year (2018) I managed to grab myself a girlfriend from work. We spent as much time as we could together when we weren't working. We had a good time and loved being together. We are both the same age as I am 1 month older then her. She has had more relationships and stuff before me and I knew all this before I asked her out. So I was ok with it. the main thing is, She has a 3 year old daughter. At first it was a challenge getting her kid to like me and be comfortable with me. after week and week of being with the kid and her she finally realized im not scary and we got along. Being able to play "do" makeup together and our hair and what not. Around the time of late April early May she came to me with big and important news. I didn't exactly know what to expect. she sat me down. And as she was very worried of my reaction she then told me that she has been pregnant since early March. At first I didn't know what to say, feel, or respond. I just wanted everyone to be happy. But as I have had more time to think of it I am excited to have a little Carter (my name) or Ravek JR growing up to take my shoes. To this day I am mostly just worried as I want the best for my child. She is due early January and I will not find out the gender until the 22nd of this month. which is why I wanted to wait so long to make this. But me and the mother are not having the best of relations right now which is making things even harder for me. As I don't want my child to grow up with split parents or just 1 parent for that matter. I currently don't have a job either, so money is weighing heavily on my back right now, as well as time. I'm trying my best to keep the mother happy so we can stay together, but again things are going downhill faster then I can catch up with, and its not looking good honestly. To top it all off my IRL friends aren't really supporting me like they said they would and I thought they would. I have had 2 groups of friends growing up. 1 that went to my school and I talked to most of the time played games with. The other I knew since I was young, played sports with ect. The 2nd group are all in school as I am not, and we just have drifted I feel too far apart to really be special to each other anymore honestly. My first friend group that I went to school with are just busy and are getting other friends and we don't even talk weekly anymore. I feel alone at this point and the biggest reason I am making this post is that JR is my last line of support that I don't want to lose and I want to share my life with you guys as I have been here for 6+ years. The staff the members have honestly made this place make me feel at home and I don't want to lose that feeling, I would love to one day have my kid grow up and play here and take my shoes as I grow old. I would love any advice anyone has to offer. But most importantly I would love support as I really just feel alone in this world. I hope no one will judge me either or think of me differently cause of this. Thank you for listening. I just want to give a quick thank you to p4ck, Jamie, Frosty, and chris for being supportive and helping me aswell really does mean more then you think and helps. 

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@Ravek

I know you are in a hard situation, but remember you have the full support of JR and it's team. You've been a vital pillar to our continued development and I hope that you know you can always talk to us.

I remember when you first talked to me about this situation, you've come a long way from what I have just read. Unfortunately, life throws stuff at you, you're dealing with it well. Especially now you are open and talking about the problems you are having. 

As for your relationship if you are having issues, talk to her, communicate. Hurdles can be easily overcome if you talk. If you don't talk and work things out in a relationship things get harder, more sour as time progresses. It's only normal for you to want to be there for your kid and for the kid to not have split parents. 

Again, if you need help or if you are struggling I'm available anytime to talk in private.

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firstly, congratulations. As the people above have said, your best bet is to sit down with her and properly talk. Get all the problems out into the air just go for it and come up with solutions to them. If you don't talk, it'll only get worse. Do whatever is best for the kids. 

You must be feeling a lot of anxiety right now. too Best to try and get things sorted. Don't want things getting worse. Depression can be serious. Feel free to vent on here, we will all listen.

Best advice i can give not being in this type of situation before. I hope it all goes well for you though.

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